Prologue: Collecting some player thoughts at the cafe
So I've realized that there are some fundamental truths in sexual attraction. Certain guidelines that will always lead you in the right direction.
Here are some thoughts I had today while reading the book "Atomic Habits" and going over my Player diary.
1. Sexual attraction without touching.
There are many ways to excite a girl sexually. Actually being physical is the easiest way if you can catch the right signs from the girl. However, I've come to realize that there is a subtle art to arousing a girl without laying a finger on her. Here are some examples.
Staying relaxed and being playful in front of a hot girl. If you think about it, unless you are a homosexual male, it is hard to stay relaxed in front of a very sexy woman. However, over time and practice, if you can manage to stay calm and even witty with a hot girl, that in itself will make the girl excited. You can even try to catch yourself being nervous and try to relax yourself down.
Sexual eye contact. This is a hard thing to describe or explain. I think it's one of those things that you can get a grip of by practicing, like riding a bike. If I had to put it into words, there's a seductive way you look at the girl, not too long to the point of being creepy, and also saying "I want to have sex with you" with your eyes. It's basically a sex beam. However if you master this, it is a very powerful tool and you will make a girl wet just with just eye contact.
The tone and the voice you talk. If you talk with a tone where the pitch of your voice goes up in the end of a sentence, almost like a question, it is very unattractive to girls. It sounds insecure and needy. However, if you talk where the pitch of your voice goes down, you sound like a boss. This is a neat trick. In the end, you just have to sound certain of yourself, sure about what you're doing, and where you're going.
2. To keep a hot girl around, you have to get used to it. Make it a habit. And the only way to do that is to have many hot girls in your life, over time.
Recently I was frustrated because about a month ago, I have slept with two gorgeous girls but then the girls that came afterwards, I was not very satisfied with. So I was angry without a clear answer to what I was doing wrong. I even thought something was wrong with me. But then going over the book "Atomic Habits" by James Clear, I had found my answer.
This book talks about how your habits not only help you achieve your goal, but defines your identity as a person. So for example, if you keep eating fast foods and do not workout, you will start thinking of yourself as someone lazy and fat, a scum bag. And that low self esteem you have about yourself will encourage you to continue eating junk food and stay home playing video games all day. However, if you are someone who works out and eats healthy all the time, these habits will make you think that you are a healthy, hard working, proud, and awesome person. And such high self esteem will motivate you to continue eating healthy and working out. The image you have about yourself will determine which actions you will take. And before that, your image is determined by which actions you have taken previously. It's like that old native Indian tale about the good wolf and the bad wolf that fight inside you, and whichever one you keep feeding will become stronger and win over the other.
So going back to how I had trouble keeping the hot girls around me, I simply did not have enough hotties in my life previously (or for the past 6 months) and so I lacked the image of me being around hotties all the time. The good news is that the fix is simple. I just need to keep meeting hot girls, and the more hot girls I keep around me, the stronger this image of me keeping hotties will be.
And the best part is, once I have this image of me sleeping with hotties all the time, I will be doing that effortlessly. I will sleep with hot girls without even trying to.
Here are some thoughts I had today while reading the book "Atomic Habits" and going over my Player diary.
1. Sexual attraction without touching.
There are many ways to excite a girl sexually. Actually being physical is the easiest way if you can catch the right signs from the girl. However, I've come to realize that there is a subtle art to arousing a girl without laying a finger on her. Here are some examples.
Staying relaxed and being playful in front of a hot girl. If you think about it, unless you are a homosexual male, it is hard to stay relaxed in front of a very sexy woman. However, over time and practice, if you can manage to stay calm and even witty with a hot girl, that in itself will make the girl excited. You can even try to catch yourself being nervous and try to relax yourself down.
Sexual eye contact. This is a hard thing to describe or explain. I think it's one of those things that you can get a grip of by practicing, like riding a bike. If I had to put it into words, there's a seductive way you look at the girl, not too long to the point of being creepy, and also saying "I want to have sex with you" with your eyes. It's basically a sex beam. However if you master this, it is a very powerful tool and you will make a girl wet just with just eye contact.
The tone and the voice you talk. If you talk with a tone where the pitch of your voice goes up in the end of a sentence, almost like a question, it is very unattractive to girls. It sounds insecure and needy. However, if you talk where the pitch of your voice goes down, you sound like a boss. This is a neat trick. In the end, you just have to sound certain of yourself, sure about what you're doing, and where you're going.
2. To keep a hot girl around, you have to get used to it. Make it a habit. And the only way to do that is to have many hot girls in your life, over time.
Recently I was frustrated because about a month ago, I have slept with two gorgeous girls but then the girls that came afterwards, I was not very satisfied with. So I was angry without a clear answer to what I was doing wrong. I even thought something was wrong with me. But then going over the book "Atomic Habits" by James Clear, I had found my answer.
This book talks about how your habits not only help you achieve your goal, but defines your identity as a person. So for example, if you keep eating fast foods and do not workout, you will start thinking of yourself as someone lazy and fat, a scum bag. And that low self esteem you have about yourself will encourage you to continue eating junk food and stay home playing video games all day. However, if you are someone who works out and eats healthy all the time, these habits will make you think that you are a healthy, hard working, proud, and awesome person. And such high self esteem will motivate you to continue eating healthy and working out. The image you have about yourself will determine which actions you will take. And before that, your image is determined by which actions you have taken previously. It's like that old native Indian tale about the good wolf and the bad wolf that fight inside you, and whichever one you keep feeding will become stronger and win over the other.
So going back to how I had trouble keeping the hot girls around me, I simply did not have enough hotties in my life previously (or for the past 6 months) and so I lacked the image of me being around hotties all the time. The good news is that the fix is simple. I just need to keep meeting hot girls, and the more hot girls I keep around me, the stronger this image of me keeping hotties will be.
And the best part is, once I have this image of me sleeping with hotties all the time, I will be doing that effortlessly. I will sleep with hot girls without even trying to.
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