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being love worthy

It's not about how many times you get complimented or people tell you how amazing you are. At the end of the day, you only feel as good as you let you feel about yourself. Are you doing the things that earn you the right to be loved? To be love worthy?

The interval game

So during my hot shower time, I had an epiphany while I was pondering through the core nature of neediness between men and women. Generally, most men are needy, because statistically, girls get most of the attention. If you opened a girl's tinder, you'll know what I'm talking about. Flooded with horny and desperate guys that only swipe right. Anyways, I have come to realize that guys become needy because they get validation, that they are a worthy guy when they are with the girl. And girls play the "interval game" when they stop texting you for a while and such, to test you. If you think that you can't do better than getting that girl, naturally you will cling on to that girl like you're at the edge of a cliff. The interesting thing here is that you will pass this "test" naturally without even noticing girls doing this if you are in a surplus mindset, where you have an abundance of girls of a similar level of attractiveness. So in summary, ...

The danger of dating your dream girl

When you become good enough (or lucky) you will catch your dream girl, a girl so close to your ideal girlfriend, a 9 or a 10 you get the idea. However, there are certain risks that come with dating this "Perfect girl". One of them is falling in the trap of oneitis, which is not wanting to meet other girls because you are beyond satisfied with this girl, and maybe even because you are afraid to disappoint her. This is a trap because when you stop meeting lots of girls, you forget how it is to be attractive in girls eyes, and become a pleaser for this one girl. You naturally become needy because now you only have one girl. You leave behind the way of player and leave yourself on ground zero. So you must stay true to yourself, to your player life, even if it means losing her. Date many girls, even if you don't really feel like it. And you will be surprised at how they will be even more attracted to you because at the end of the day you are being honest with yourself and wit...

I fucking love being a player

The passion of an artist, craftsman, creator, actor, director. The thrill of being a lover, feeling like you have everything in the world, being on top of the world; just to fall and feel like you've lost everything you've had because you lost her. It is not just a simple game but a gamble, a lifetime of hard work, craftsmanship, and a voyage, one's journey to growth. I started from the bottom but now I'm here, on top of the mountain. When you're on top of the mountain, it sucks because you have to climb all the way back down, but worry not because you can climb an even higher mountain now. And "there always is a higher mountain". When you approach a girl, you are scared. This takes on the physical form of tightening guts, increasing heart rate, similar to when you're about to go into a fight. It's as if a lion has a gazelle in his sight, and approaches slowly, preparing to strike at the right moment.

DGAF YOLO

Dgaf stands for don't give a fuck and yolo for you only live once. YOU'RE NEVER GONNA SEE THESE STRANGERS AGAIN JUST MAN UP AND GO TALK TO THAT GIRL Doesn't matter if it's a train packed with strangers. Actually, the more strangers the better because you will never see them again. Who the FUCK gives if they talk shit about you, who the fuck gives a fuck about their opinion? In the end, the only thing that matters is you and that girl, and the amazing future experiences you two love birds may share. I've been with absolute stunners in my life, and the only reason that happened in the first place was because of my YOLO DGAF mentality. So what I'm trying to say is, go get 'em players.

Essence of confidence

"Esteemable people do esteemable things" What is confidence? The old but gold youtube channel about picking up girls, Simple Pickup, says confidence is the key to attracting girls. And you can only gain true confidence from many trials and errors. Basically failing a lot. It is a nice simple generalization, and also very true, but I have my own philosophy to it. I believe that one's confidence comes from the accumulation of different aspects and things they have going on in their life. To give an example, things such as having a job or not having a job, having a beautiful girlfriend or being a virgin, being happy with life or being depressed, having just bought a new car or not having one, these kinds of things add up to how one feels about themselves. Also, it is a net of these things, so if one person was really fat and that was a -500 to his confidence, but had an insane amount of money which gave him +2000 confidence, he would still be acting confidently. If he ...

Prologue: Collecting some player thoughts at the cafe

So I've realized that there are some fundamental truths in sexual attraction. Certain guidelines that will always lead you in the right direction. Here are some thoughts I had today while reading the book "Atomic Habits" and going over my Player diary. 1. Sexual attraction without touching. There are many ways to excite a girl sexually. Actually being physical is the easiest way if you can catch the right signs from the girl. However, I've come to realize that there is a subtle art to arousing a girl without laying a finger on her. Here are some examples. Staying relaxed and being playful in front of a hot girl. If you think about it, unless you are a homosexual male, it is hard to stay relaxed in front of a very sexy woman. However, over time and practice, if you can manage to stay calm and even witty with a hot girl, that in itself will make the girl excited. You can even try to catch yourself being nervous and try to relax yourself down. Sexual eye contac...