Essence of confidence
"Esteemable people do esteemable things"
What is confidence? The old but gold youtube channel about picking up girls, Simple Pickup, says confidence is the key to attracting girls. And you can only gain true confidence from many trials and errors. Basically failing a lot. It is a nice simple generalization, and also very true, but I have my own philosophy to it.
I believe that one's confidence comes from the accumulation of different aspects and things they have going on in their life. To give an example, things such as having a job or not having a job, having a beautiful girlfriend or being a virgin, being happy with life or being depressed, having just bought a new car or not having one, these kinds of things add up to how one feels about themselves.
Also, it is a net of these things, so if one person was really fat and that was a -500 to his confidence, but had an insane amount of money which gave him +2000 confidence, he would still be acting confidently. If he only had average money that gave him +400 confidence, he would probably be acting insecure unless he had other things going on in his life.
To take things further, if you're a pro gamer, you may be confident as fuck in the battlefield inside the game, but you would be acting a lot more shy on a real battlefield in the middle east. Also the same would apply when it comes to attracting girls, the pro gamer probably cannot hold a conversation with a very hot girl for longer than 2 minutes.
At the end of the day, to gain confidence in one area, you have to be experienced in that area, and your confidence will bleed into other similar areas of your life. But there is no such thing as just one "confidence". You may be confident in many things, but you can't be in all of them.
What is confidence? The old but gold youtube channel about picking up girls, Simple Pickup, says confidence is the key to attracting girls. And you can only gain true confidence from many trials and errors. Basically failing a lot. It is a nice simple generalization, and also very true, but I have my own philosophy to it.
I believe that one's confidence comes from the accumulation of different aspects and things they have going on in their life. To give an example, things such as having a job or not having a job, having a beautiful girlfriend or being a virgin, being happy with life or being depressed, having just bought a new car or not having one, these kinds of things add up to how one feels about themselves.
Also, it is a net of these things, so if one person was really fat and that was a -500 to his confidence, but had an insane amount of money which gave him +2000 confidence, he would still be acting confidently. If he only had average money that gave him +400 confidence, he would probably be acting insecure unless he had other things going on in his life.
To take things further, if you're a pro gamer, you may be confident as fuck in the battlefield inside the game, but you would be acting a lot more shy on a real battlefield in the middle east. Also the same would apply when it comes to attracting girls, the pro gamer probably cannot hold a conversation with a very hot girl for longer than 2 minutes.
At the end of the day, to gain confidence in one area, you have to be experienced in that area, and your confidence will bleed into other similar areas of your life. But there is no such thing as just one "confidence". You may be confident in many things, but you can't be in all of them.
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